Hey Erica-
Finding love by chance has been impossible for me. I met this amazing girl at a friend’s wedding last weekend. She is beautiful, has a great sense of humor, and seems to have her life together. We danced and hung out most of the night and I got her number. I texted her the next morning hoping she didn’t give me a fake number, she replied right away and we bantered back and forth most of the day. Then she just stopped texting. I thought maybe she missed the message so I texted her the next day around the same time and her reply was normal and included emoji’s. I responded to that text, and again, there was no response.
I waited a couple of days to message her and when I did, she responded immediately telling me about her full day of work appointments. I responded saying it sounds like you’re busy, text me when you get off work. I never heard back.
It’s been a long time since I’ve felt chemistry with someone and I’d really like to know how to get someone to like you through text. If a girl keeps replying to your texts, even if it’s delayed, what does that mean? I really just want to experience a meaningful relationship with a great catch. With that being said, Erica, I really need your help.
From the expert:
You’ve come to the right place for answers. I will say, there really isn’t a magical answer that will guarantee a response to your text. A guaranteed turn off in texting, however, is having lots of spelling and grammar errors. Bad grammar can immediately kill the passion. Minor imperfections here and there will make you sound natural, but using “u” instead of “you” or too many abbreviations, can come across as immature.
Next, she is probably wondering why you keep texting her. Many women complain when all they get are text messages instead of the guy calling them (old school, I know) or directly asking them out without the back and forth texting. If you want the perfect text that will get her to respond, I hate to break it to you but there isn’t one. Spark her curiosity before asking her out. Use your first few texts to get her interested and excited about meeting up with you.
If she’s as great of a catch as you’re saying she is, I promise you are not the only guy on her radar. She’s got options. If you want to become the person she focuses her time on, call her! If she really is interested in you, hearing your voice will remind her of that.
Lastly, don’t confuse lust with reality. She may look and sound like your perfect match, but at this point that’s all you know about her. A major red-flag for many women is someone that comes on too strong – let’s face it, nobody wants someone that is clingy.
Instead of figuring out a magic technique to keep her intrigued with your texting skills, take action to see her. Finding true love on your own can be challenging however it’s certainly not impossible. Don’t leave it to chance. You must know what you want out of a relationship, know yourself and be willing to walk away from the methods that aren’t working.
As always, I’m here to help.
-Erica Suzanne, Matchmaker + Manifestation Coach
