Where did this even come from? Scandalous right? When I started in this industry over 20 years ago, this wasn’t even on the radar. Nowadays sending nudes among dating is rampant among women and men of all ages. I have talked to so many people that have told me that they either have sent or received some sort of scantily clad photo from virtual strangers. According to Scientific America (2014), “…Men are more likely than women to send and receive intimate information — 61 percent of men partake in sexting and suggestive photo taking, while 48 percent of women do.” So we must talk about this a little deeper, because clearly, it’s happening.. A lot. To be quite honest- I have received them as well. Like from literal strangers. I quipped them “cock bombs” because I never expect them, and nothing can prepare you for that! LOL!
What really is one supposed to do with nude shots? Are you asking for them? Are they just expected? Do you send them in hopes of something?
Where is the mystery in getting to know someone? Like, “Hi, my name is Michael, I would love to get to know you”. Not, “This is Michael and my little buddy.” (lol yes, it wasn’t often that I saw a Ron Jeremy sort of size) …come on that is funny. One of my male clients said he basically says hi and a few text strings later he gets a boobie shot of them just hanging out!
I’ve never in all my years in the business heard anyone say that they asked someone for the nudes. Or let alone ask for that as a prerequisite to a date.
I am going to be candid here and say, have some self respect. Let the one you are interested earn the trust and the honor of seeing your temple. Don’t give it up for free- it’s not getting you anywhere closer to a husband or wife. The only thing it gets you is being shown around the happy hour table, full of laughter, analysis and total and utter disrespectful talk about you.
Just sayin.
